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Lessons learned featured on the moms blog at democrat and chronicle

Friday August 9, 2013
Friday August 9, 2013

I’m blogging about lessons learned on motherhood, love, and life at the moms blog at thedemocratandchronicle.com. I hope you get a chance to check it out soon, whether or not your a mom, since I just published a post you might like to read – Seven lessons learned about riding a bicycle.

Why blog?

For me, blogging is about connecting with and inspiring people – moms or not. Blogging on a moms blog is also about sharing what I know and have experienced with storytelling that might help someone else. I strive to write with sincerity, humor, brevity, and timeliness. I don’t always hit the mark, but I’m willing to fail. Although I don’t believe I’m very controversial, like most moms, I will go to the ends of the earth to keep my children safe (even if one happens to be a dog).

“Character gets you out of bed, commitment moves you to action. Faith, hope, and discipline enable you to follow through to completion.” – Zig Ziglar

The late motivational speaker and author Zig Ziglar spread his message of positive attitude, motivation and success through stories punctuated with short quotes that became legendary among his followers. I used to listen to his motivational and goal-setting tapes when I sold Ray-Ban sunglasses to dive huts along the Atlantic and Pacific coasts during my student co-op with RIT. Understanding the nature of goals when facing rejection everyday helped me remain confident and motivated. I learned that I had to have faith in myself because without it, no one would “buy” from me. From this cumulative experience, I also learned that I never wanted to sell stuff over the phone again.

Having faith in my ability to write, hope that the lessons I’ve learned from motherhood, love, and life will resonate with readers of a moms blog, and the discipline to work at my art everyday drive me. What drives you?

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School concerts, shiny objects, and grown-ups

DSC_3253 - Version 2What does it say about us grown-ups when we can’t put down our shiny objects in a darkened auditorium as our children perform their carefully rehearsed musical program? How can we ignore a Spring concert created for families of children who attend elementary school by tapping on our smart phones and tablets? Why do we allow the siblings of performers to play games and watch movies while the music plays? Arguably, young kids get antsy and need distractions (and so do grown-ups), but is this the kind of behavior we want to exemplify for our kids?

My humble observation is: Grown-ups who play with their shiny objects and allow their children to play with their expensive toys while the band plays “Kingswood March,” and the orchestra performs “Dragon Slayer,” and the choir sings “Don’t Stop Believin'” simply don’t want to be at their child’s school concert. I believe this type of behavior shows a lack of respect for ourselves and our kids. Moments like these often remind me of a story told by Leo Tolstoy about an emperor who sought the answers to three questions:

  1. What is the best time to do each thing?
  2. Who are the most important people to work with?
  3. What is the most important thing to do at all times?

 

The wisdom that Tolstoy set forth is that there is only one important time, and that is Now. The most important person is always the person you are with. The most important thing to do is to make the person at your side happy, for that alone is the pursuit of life. Watching my son and his classmates perform was the most important thing for me to do that evening with my husband. It’s that simple, but not always easy.

What do you think?

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Valentine’s Day brings more than chocolate gifts

"heart" by James 2011
“heart” by James 2011

What are you doing this Valentine’s Day with your loved one? I hope it’s not like this year’s Modern Family episode “Heart Broken.”

While I’m not spending the evening with my husband, I get to spend it with my son, which is a gift. I’ll start my day by listening to James’ valentine song.  “Won’t you be my valentine?” always makes me smile when I play it. After James rides the bus to school, I’ll visit a chocolate maker in town for an interview and taste some chocolate for a story I’m writing (more to come on that later). I’ll FaceTime with Rob (we’ll celebrate V-day later this month), drive James to soccer training, eat more chocolate, and read a quirky, love story about a couple who flee their midwest suburban home for Niagara Falls during Valentine’s weekend. The book is written by one of my favorite authors, Stewart O’Nan, who has a knack for exposing truths and making the case for redemption.

Want to curl up with a good love story – for free? Grab a glass of wine, some chocolate and download a story online at Project Gutenberg, which offers more than 42,000 electronic books (ebooks) for various e-readers.  Here’s the top five most downloaded love stories:

1. Pride and Prejudice – EPUB

2. Jane Eyre – EPUB

3. Anna Karenina EPUB

4. Emma – EPUB

5. Wuthering Heights – EPUB

If you want to read on your iPhone (like my mom) then click on the word EPUB next to the book. This is the electronic version that will open on your mobile device. When prompted, open in iBooks. There are other versions, including Kindle. Not interested in reading a love story on your mobile phone? How about Beowulf, Les Miserables, or  The Importance of Being Ernest? Click on Project Gutenberg’s mobile site here and search away. (Thanks to Media Bistro’s Galleycat for the inspiration)

Oh, and Happy Valentine’s Day!

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